My Ruthless Tinder Instagram Strategy Exposed (Girls Will DM You.) — Zirby

My Ruthless Tinder Instagram Strategy Exposed (Girls Will DM You.) — Zirby

My Ruthless Tinder Instagram Strategy Revealed (Girls Will DM You.)

“> My Ruthless Tinder Instagram Strategy Revealed (Girls Will DM You.)

What if you could skip ALL the conversation and get her IG right away?

And what women slid in to YOUR DMs?

Well, with this Tinder Instagram strategy hack, you can.

In just one message, you can add her on Insta.

And from there, follow this simple technique to keep her engaged.

So asking her out for the date is an easy yes.

The best part is, I’ll show you my real strategy in a video I recorded.

And like aways, it’s not theory, but real examples.

Also, this is a long page, so definitely use our index:

  • Watch my Tinder Instagram Hack.

  • Can’t Watch? Here’s the Transcript.

  • The Easiest First Message on Tinder… Ever.

  • This is why She Likes You.

  • Why this Online Dating Hack is so Easy.

  • The Holy Grail of Online Dating.

  • The Power of Instagram for Getting Laid.

  • Part Two of the Strategy, Instagram Stories.

  • How to get Girls to Slide in to Your DMs.

  • Use Voice Notes, not Texts.

  • The Tinder Instagram Strategy: Step by Step.

  • Why Instagram is so Powerful for Tinder.

  • Why Texting Sucks.

  • The Other BIG Benefit of Asking for Her IG Handle.

  • Put Everything into Action.

  • The SEQUEL Method in Action.

Watch My Tinder Instagram Hack

Can’t Watch? Here’s the Transcript

Today we’re going to be talking about something really cool which is Instagram on Tinder.

And specifically, how you can use Instagram on Tinder to meet really hot girls and have amazing adventures…

Without having to work so hard.

The thing is about Tinder, as you know, is you need to send a lot of messages, right?

  • You need to get the girl warmed up.

  • You need to get your personality across.

  • You need to do a lot of work and a lot of effort to make the conversation go smoothly.

All so that way you can get her number…

  • And then talk with her via the number.

  • And then time goes on and then you go to the date,

  • And blah-blah-blah-blah.

No, no, no, no.

Tinder to Instagram in Just 1 Message.

We’re going to take all of that and we’re just going to cut it off at the head.

We’re going to go directly from Tinder within one message to her Instagram.

Have her see our Instagram so she knows that we’re fun, we’re cool, we’re the real deal.

And, we’re going to let our Instagram do all the work for us.

So that way we can just meet her right away.

And everything I’m talking about I’m going to show you how to do in this video.

No cliffhangers.

So let’s dive in.

The Easiest First Message on Tinder… EVER.

First off I want to show you my ultimate strategy for matching and talking with girls on Tinder.

It’s really-really easy.

Basically, all you do when you match with her as you send her a message that says, her name.

Best First Tinder Message

“> Best First Tinder Message

Now you can do variations to get a higher response rate, but it can just be her name.

Why is sending her name so effective on Tinder?

Well, to be honest, a custom line is better.

(Where you look at her profile and you come up with a line that’s specific to her.)

But sometimes you just want to get messages out there.

So you get girls responding right away, because it’s a numbers game, totally a numbers game.

Now the better your Tinder Profile…

  • The better your bio is written.

  • The more attractive your photos are.

  • The more attractive you are,

…all of that together combined, increases the number of women that will be interested.

But even if you have a bad profile, even if you are not the most handsome dude in the world…

Kind of like me…

You’re still going to be able to get results on Tinder and if you use the strategy.

Why Sending Her Name Works.

First off, Zirby is the world’s largest Tinder and Online Dating resource in the world right now.

With over 4,000,000 yearly readers.

So any strategy I write here will be used by other guys as soon as I post about it.

But it’s okay, it doesn’t matter.

Even if other people are doing this, it’s totally cool.

If you want to make it better, all you need to do is do what I did here:

Which is you just look at her profile and you pick one thing out of it.

Then, make your opening line about that and her name.

The name thing works because it shows you took time to actually look at her profile a little.

Yes, I know, that’s a low bar, but keep in mind that the average message she gets is just “hey.”

Getting a Girls Instagram

“> Getting a Girls Instagram

A Screenshot Example of Sending Her Name.

So in this case I said, “Rikki! One of my best friends is a viral YouTuber. Cool that you make videos.”

Totally true statement.

My friend Jesse from Simple Pickup is a viral YouTuber.

So in her profile, it mentioned that she does YouTube videos.

So there’s a very obvious thing in her profile that I can reference.

Now, pulling a line from her profile and combining it with her name, total personalization.

When she sees this, she goes right away that I’m actually taking the time to look at all of her stuff, which is what you want.

So with that out of the way, she says, “Hey Marc, oh that’s nice! Where are you from?

Now, here’s where things get good.

“East coast, USA. So I have a very strong opinion about pizza. Let’s talk over Line or Instagram, what’s your ID?”

Boom, there you have it.

It’s that easy.

You send the name, she responds, you ask for her Instagram or if you’re in another country WhatsApp or Line.

I prefer Instagram and we’ll get to why it’s the best soon.

But again, if you’re in another country and you know that Line is popular there.

Or WhatsApp like in Europe.

You can use that too and you can kind of funnel it into the strategy.

But with that said, let’s go on to see another example.

Does this Strategy Work with Europeans?

How to Ask for a Girls Instagram on Tinder

“> How to Ask for a Girls Instagram on Tinder

Now, we’ll use this same strategy with Europeans.

And we’ll go for her Instagram.



“Let’s talk over IG. What’s your handle?”

“Oh difficult English, You mean Instagram nickname?”

“Yeah, I’ll message you there.”

And she gives me her Instagram.

European girls.

So there you go.

You can see it just works, it’s super, super easy.

And again, you’re going to find out why this is so powerful very-very soon.

Getting Her Instagram With 1 Tinder Message.

Here’s another one.

“Hi! How are you.”

She messaged me first.

“Hey Vilma, let’s talk on Instagram. What’s your handle?”

And she gives it to me.

Now you might be wondering why is this girl giving me her Instagram right away.

Well, you have to understand a few things about how girls interact with Tinder…

Get Her IG in 1 Tinder Message

“> Get Her IG in 1 Tinder Message

This is why She Likes You.

What makes a girl on Tinder or Instagram like you?

Or for that matter, on any Online Dating app?

The secret is giving value.

Giving Value Creates Dates.

One thing is a lot of girls use Tinder and put their Instagram on to intentionally get guys to follow them to grow their own following.

“The best way to be successful with Online Dating, and Tinder, is giving value.”

When you follow her on her Instagram, you’re literally giving her value.

You’re literally giving her another follower.

So it increases the likelihood that she’ll say yes to giving you her Instagram even if she wouldn’t say yes necessarily to giving you her number.

That’s the first thing.

But there are other ways you can give value:

  • Having an amazing opening line that’s really funny.

  • Having an amazing profile that’s funny and interesting and entertaining to read.

  • Your photos are engaging and it makes her want to know more.

You always want to make sure that you’re giving value with Tinder.

Now let’s move on.

Getting a Girl’s Whatsapp on Tinder

“> Getting a Girl's Whatsapp on Tinder



“Hey! How are you?”

I don’t know what it is with blondes right now.

I’m in a blonde kick.

“Awesome just landed in Ko Samui. Let’s talk on IG. What’s your handle?”

And she gives me her whatsapp.

“Cool. Adding you now.”

Why this Online Dating Hack is so Easy

We’re going to look at the next image there in a second.

But the point that I want to drive home is the formula for this is very, very, very easy.

And it works especially if your Tinder profile is tip-top.

So the strategy is:

  1. Her name

  2. Add a little customization based on her bio or photos.

  3. Asking for her Instagram.

It’s really that simple.

You can customize it.

You can make it ten times better by having your opening line reference something in her profile.

Sometimes I do this and sometimes I don’t.

Another way to customize this strategy is to include a joke relevant to the conversation.

When you’re asking for her IG.

But again, none of this is really necessary, you can just be super minimal and you’ll get girls that will give you their Instagram.

You’ll find that the response rate for this is really high.

The number of Instagram handles that you’re able to get is surprisingly high compared to the number of text messages numbers.

Though, you will find some girls will say, ‘Well, I don’t have WhatsApp.’ or ‘Instagram.’ Or whatever.

If this happens, no problem. Just ask “Well, what do you use?”

And then you can move on from there.

Getting Her Instagram is Part 1…

So this is all part 1.

It’s how you get her IG really, really quick.

Now with me, I do this all day.

I sit on the toilet when I’m pooping.

I swipe right, I swipe left.

As I’ve mentioned before, don’t always swipe right as it will hurt your ELO score.

I go through I get matches and then I immediately convert them.

The best part about this is when I travel.

I’m going to new city, I can start swiping and immediately I have like 10 to 15 to 20 girls within one day.

Now here is the best part… here’s part two of this.

That is your Instagram.

The Holy Grail of Online Dating.

Sliding in to DM’s

“> Sliding in to DM's

Instagram is the new holy grail of online dating.

And NOT for sliding into her DMs.

That is something that maybe you can do… I guess.

But it’s way better to get women that are already pre-qualified to be interested in you.

They have already shown you that they’re interested in dating, because they’re on a dating app.

And getting them onto your Instagram where then you can drip them content.

Now, that’s what all this is about.

Again remember, being successful on Tinder and really any online dating is about giving value.

Giving value. That’s so important.

If we can get girls into our Instagram and we can constantly feed them value and get them really excited about seeing us.

It””s very, very simple.

And again, the whole beauty of this is we can do it without having to spend our time messaging girls.

Because if you think about it: there’s a bottleneck.

The bottleneck is, for men it’s a numbers game.

A certain percentage of girls, no matter what we do, just aren’t going to be down even if they match with us.


That’s just how it is.

So you need to burn through all of these numbers as fast as possible so you can get to the people who actually care about you.

So you can get to the people who are actually interested in you.

And the only way you’re going to do that is if you can get efficient.

And this method is really, really efficient.

Now doesn’t mean that it’s the only strategy.

There’s still value in just having a conversation on Tinder.

In fact, as much or more than this one technique I use.

This should just be one more tool in your tool box.

After all, good conversation on Tinder can…

  • Make the date better later.

  • Make her more interested in seeing you.

  • Reduce the time between messaging her and meeting up for the first date.

  • And increase the chance you’ll hookup on the first date.

Sometimes you’ll use a strategy for Instagram and they’ll add you.

And it just kind of Peters out.

Maybe that wouldn’t have happened if you had an actual conversation.

So don’t discount that yet.

This is just an alternative.

You should be trying and doing lots of different things.

  • If you’re not photogenic.

  • If you don’t take good photos.

  • If you’re not good on cameras.

Then this strategy that I’m going to show you right now in Instagram isn’t going to work.

And if you’re better with having conversation and texting then maybe you don’t want to do this.

So again, this is just an option and alternative my favorite one but still.

Okay. Here’s how this works.

How to Give Value Over Instagram.

So a girl comes over to your Instagram.

You have two ways to give her value.

  1. With your uploads.

  2. With your stories.

So let’s talk about the former, your pictures.

If a girl comes to your Instagram and it’s only like weird selfies of yourself in a mirror or like tons of pictures of Garfield…

You’re basically telling your like, “hey, I don’t have anything going on in my life.”

  • She’s not going to get excited.

  • Thus she’s not going to want to meet you.

You’re not projecting anything about yourself that people would get really excited about knowing.

So on the other hand..

If you have an Instagram like mine (below), where it’s all pictures of really attractive women.

That paints a different story.

This tells the girl what I value.

It tells the girl more importantly who is around me.

Now if hot attractive girls are around me and I’m traveling to all of these different places around the world then it’s telling the girl what I value.

It’s telling the girl that I’m fun and interesting and I’m worldly and it’s pre-screening.

Certain kind of girls are going to look at this profile and think to themselves, I don’t like this guy because I don’t like the kind of pictures he makes.


I don’t want you in my life because the kind of girls that I want are fun, light-hearted, more open to casual stuff versus a girl who’s very conservative and sees a profile like this and isn’t interested.

The Power of Instagram for Getting Laid.

So this works 3 ways.

  1. It gives the girl value or entertainment.

  2. It shows the girls what your personality and expectations are.

  3. It screens out girls with the wrong personality for you.

This is all contingent on you having good photos of course.

Now I know what you’re thinking:

“I’m not a professional photographer! I will never have photos that good.”

Let me brush off my ego and give you something surprising:

Good doesn’t simply mean visually professional.

Case and point: my friend Scott.

How to Have an Amazing Instagram.

Scotts profile, to the right is great.

But it has no hot girls.

And to be fair he’s not a good photographer.

But his images work, because they show cool places, cool things he’s doing.

Women see these photos and don’t want to miss out.

They want to be hanging out with him.

His pictures make women say, “I don’t want to miss out. I don’t want to miss out on this crazy view. I don’t want to miss out on whatever this like tower slash sculpture is.’

He’s painting a picture of himself of doing all these interesting things.

Girls are going to want to go and hang out with him in these these kind of places.

Good Instagram Profile for Tinder

You Don’t Need to be a Photographer

So you can see with a proper Tinder profile…

Even if you’re not a photographer…

You still show what you’re all about.

And all the things that doing and you have content that’s interesting.

Your entire Instagram then becomes basically like your new Tinder profile.

But you need to think about it.

It has to be strategic.

You can’t just post a photo of whatever cat you come across.

You also want to get some followers.

Note that I said some.

Not thousands.

I didn’t buy followers, if I did I probably have a lot more.

Because it’s not followers that matter.

It’s engagement.

It’s the number of comments, likes, and quality of conversation in relationship to the number of followers you have.

A profile with 20,000 followers and 26 likes per post sucks.

A profile with 400 followers, but 80 likes per post is a FAR better profile.

But this is easy to fix.

You can join pods.

What is a Pod?

A pod is a network of Instagram profiles.

Where everyone comments and likes each others posts.

Think a basketball team working together.

Actually, my friend Scott and I have a Zirby pod together.

So whenever I put up a post he comments on it, when he puts up a post I comment on his.

In fact, if you want to get involved in this, we actually have a pod with our Zirby Facebook group.

When you join the group, tag me (Marc) or Scott and we can give you more informatino.

With all that said, the next thing that I want to talk about is the second part of your profile.

The second part of this strategy which is all about your stories.

Part Two of the Strategy, Instagram Stories.

Stories are probably more important than posts in my opinion.

People don’t even scroll through Instagram like they you say, they watch stories.

And stories are great way to get your personality across.

To get the girl interested in you.

Because she actually can watch you and you can demonstrate something that you can’t in your Instagram.

  • Your personality

  • Sense of humor

  • Your presence.

All of these things which are contingent really on video you can kind of get hints of it across in writing.

But it’s really contingent on your video.

Now, with your stories you can do really fun stuff.

Girls will watch it.

So let me show you some examples of some stories here.

Great Instagram Stories

“> Great Instagram Stories

Great Example Stories

All of these stories are done on purpose.

  • You’ll see that they’re all showing me.

  • They’re all highlighting me

  • They’re showing my value.

  • They’re showing all the fun stuff around the world I’m doing.

  • They’re showing my sense of humor.

  • Showing me with different kinds of people.

  • Showing me showing my photos I took of this girl and she’s reacting really well.

Value in your Stories are Invaluable.

It’s all raising my value I guess, it shows my humor, joking around.

Keep in mind that I have a Gif here showing my Stories.

But watching the Video is probably a good idea.

Anyway, when a girl watches my stories she gets really excited to get to know me.

And you can do all of this too.

Just make sure that you do something maybe once a week, you make a story of it and then you throw it in your highlights.

Or ideally do stories every day.

But it’s really important that you think about your stories.

This is strategic.

You can’t just put up a terrible, terrible story, that’s not funny or interesting, that’s like…

‘Hey guys, I’m bored. Check out my dumb selfie. This is fun!’

No, it’s not fun.

You need to make it fun because remember, girls are going to be watching this.

How to get Girls to Slide into Your DMs

“> How to get Girls to Slide into Your DMs

How to get Girls to Slide into Your DMs

So what happens when girls watch your stories?

Well what happens is, they message you.

They watch the stories.

They have a reaction.

So you can see this girl here, I had two funny stories.

One of them, she made a laughing emoji about, the other one she said, ‘Ohhh, you got a good seat!’

And then, ‘Totally lucked out. Love your Instagram.’

‘Thanks! Which part of Japan did you see? I miss Japan!’

What Makes Stories so Exciting.

When a girl sees your Instagram Stories she’s going to get really excited.

And if you’re on top of your game, she’s going to DM you first.

You can start the dialogue yourself.

But remember, the minute she follows you back she’s going and watching all your stories.

  • If your stories are good.

  • If you put thought and time into them.

  • If you make it entertaining.

  • If you give value with this stuff.

Then the girl is going to get seriously excited and then it does all the work for you.

So you don’t need to spend time really talking to her.

AKA, skip all the conversation.

Use Voice Notes, not Texts

Sending voices notes is my go to.

You’ll stand out from the crowd, big time.

Plus, you can show more of your personality.

Which is the name of the game.

Th voice notes and just be simple like, “Hey Proposal, let’s meet up and have a beer. Coors light.”

FYI, I’m actually a fan of Coors Light.

That’s how basic I am.

Shameful, I know.

The Tinder Instagram Strategy: Step by Step.

Let’s put everything together.

Here’s the complete script to follow from Tinder, to Instagram to the date.

  1. First, write her name.

  2. Include a sentence about something from her profile.

  3. Immediately asked for Instagram.

  4. You follow her, she follows you back.

  5. She checks out your stories, you message each other.

  6. You ask her out.

There you go.

It works.

It’s tested.

Enjoy it.

Never get Ghosted on Again.

A lot of times what you’ll find with girls on online dating is they ghost, they flake, right?

  • Sometimes it’s because they’re talking to tons of other guys,

  • Maybe someone in their family died.

  • Maybe they lost their keys and they couldn’t get back to you and by the time they came back, it was too late and they felt like it’d be weird if they messaged you.

  • Or she got back together for her ex for another short stint.

You don’t know.

The benefit of having her on your Instagram instead of having her on your Whatsapp or Line or text is that down the road weeks, months, even years…

She can continually watch your stories and watch your posts.

And get excited and message you out of the blue when her circumstances change.

I’ve seen it again and again and again.

It is powerful.

I can’t wait for you to experience that as well.

Why Instagram is so Powerful for Tinder

You might be wondering:

“Why get her Instagram when I can just get her number?”

In fact, this was a question I asked myself when a few years.

When a friend told me they use IG instead of Text to talk to girls.

Instagram is way less personal.

And now I’m competing with all the other guys on there.

It seemed like the worst trade off imaginable.

But, then I realized something insane:

The power of Instagram isn’t in actively talking to them.

But passively.

Active VS. Passive Talking on Instagram.

A few years ago, I met a girl in New York named Lisa.

She was a cute girl from Philly, we met through a mutual friend.

At the time, I tried to set up a date, but it always fell through.

And no matter how much I tried, I could never make things work.

So, after giving up, we exchanged Instagram.

Years went by, and that was the last time I heard from her.

Well, you can imagine my SHOCK when, out of the blue, she contacted me a few months ago.

Through my DMs.

Basically asking if I wanted to go to a festival with her and a few of her friends.

Where the hell did that come from?

We hadn’t talked in years!

But that’s where I was wrong.

While we hadn’t had any active or actual conversations…

She had been watching my stories, and feed!

It was two way communication, but it was a passive one.

Even thought we never actively spoke, she still felt connected to me.

Passive Game on Instagram is Your Wingman in the Future.

See, that’s the magic of all of this.

You can build a tribe of women who watch you on Instagram every single day.

And feel connected to you.

IF you were to try that on text?

Well, good luck.

If it succeeds, I’ll give you the keys to Zirby.

The amazing thing about Instagram is your ability to…

  • Turn old connections in to new opportunities.

  • Engage multiple women on a daily frequency beyond what you could normally do.

  • Convert women on the fece about you in to girls who fantasize about you.

There’s a real power here.

Don’t get me wrong, texting still has value.

And it’s definitely worth reading our in-depth article that breaks down how to text women.

But the problem with text is…

  1. Like we mentioned before, you have a limited number of girls you can juggle at one time over text.

  2. If a girl decides to pass, flake, or stop talking to you, you’ll never get her back.

Let’s really focus on #2.

In the story I told you about Lisa, there was about a 0% chance that we would have hooked up after she messaged me “out of the blue” had we not moved over to Instagram.

When things didn’t work out, she would have just moved on.

(Like I did.)

But because she had me on Instagram, things worked out.

Instagram Scales Exponentially.

And the crazy part about this, is your results scale on Instagram.

Let’s say you have a pool of 10 women from Tinder where things didn’t work out

On text, you have a 0.01% chance one of them will contact you again.

On Instagram, you have a 10% chance.

These numbers are tottttalllyyy fake, by the way.

But the point stands.

The more “women” you get in that pool following you on Instagram…

The more likely that old options return.

With text, they are dead.

The Other BIG Benefit of Asking For Her IG Handle

The Other BIG Benefit of Asking For Her IG Handle

There’s one other big benefit about asking for her IG Handle over her number:

She’s more likely to give it to you.

Just like everything in life, you’re more likely to get something, if you give something of equal or greater value.

When you ask for her number, you really need to provide a lot of value upfront.

  • That value comes in the form of great conversation.

  • Being very funny or witty.

  • Having an exciting Tinder profile.

(p.s. Check out our article on building a Tinder profile here.)

But with Instagram, you’re giving her another kind of value:

A follower.

Remember, everyone on Instagram wants to be followed.

Trigger Her Desires for Your Benefit.

Let’s say you’re talking to a girl on Tinder.

And she’s…

  • Just not that interested in you.

  • Is shy and needs a LOT of time before she’s willing to give you her number.

  • Or she’s rushed and doesn’t have the time to text. (The “busy excuse.”)

Instagram saves the day.

Because in all these cases, she’d probably say no to you asking for her number.

But asking for her Instaram?

Sure, why not.

So long as you can prove you’re not creepy or dangerous, she still gives “more” value than you’re asking for, by getting you as a follower.

And if your Instagram is interesting, then she will follow you back.

And that’s when you have her in your funnel.

Eventually, some of these no, or maybe girls, will convert.

Put Everything into Action

Now you’ve seen the power of my Instagram Tinder hack first hand.

It’s time to implement it.

Which is seriously easy to do.

The formula works like this:

  1. Send your opening line on Tinder to your match.

  2. Invite her to talk on Instagram. “Let’s skip chatting here. What’s your IG?”

  3. Add her on IG, and talk as if it’s through text. Meanwhile, continue making daily stories.

And remember, if you need help with your opening lines, here’s my method.

I call this the SEQUEL Method for Opening Perfect Lines.

  1. Look at her profile, and choose ONE commonality or fact.

  2. Make a line out of it that relates to both of you.

Let’s look at a real example of the Sequel Method:

Tinder Message Sequel Method

“> Tinder Message Sequel Method

The SEQUEL Method in Action

The SEQUEL Method In Action.

In her profile, she quoted that Mr. Rogers said she has a nice ass.

I like Mr. Rodgers too, so there’s a commonality.

Next, I craft my opening line to include both of us.

This is called the Us Mentality.

Because my line was about her, and me, it makes her think about us together.

From here, I simply ask for her IG.

And, it works.

(Duh. This is Zirby, after all.)

The Sequel Method for Sending the Perfect Tinder Opener

“> The Sequel Method for Sending the Perfect Tinder Opener

Time to Implement.

I put together a free PDF of my 5-Minute Sequel Method for Sending the Perfect Tinder Opener.

It breaks down all 6 steps of my SEQUEL acronym…

For sending opening messages that are deadly powerful.

Combine that with what you learned today about using Instragram.

And you’ll get results immediately, as well as far in to the future.

I want you to comment below and let me know how it goes for you.

You might be very surprised.

Marc Falzon Zirby

“> Marc Falzon Zirby

Marc Falzon

Marc is the founder of Zirby, the world’s most read Tinder & Online Dating resource, with over 4 million readers a year. You can reach out to Marc via email here, or follow him on Instagram.


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